I hate that I have to blog about this matter for a third consecutive day, but something has come to my attention that is so absurd it would almost be funny… if it wasn’t so screwed up:
I hear that some critics of Mayor Raymond Tim Kee are so upset about his comments that they’ve resorted to dragging his children into the matter. His children.
My last two posts about the whole situation have been pretty circumspect out of a willingness to reach out to those who may be genuinely misunderstanding the reasons behind the outcry. This one will be less so, because it occurs to me that the level of boldfacedness required to engage in behaviour this low requires a more direct approach.
So let me be very clear:
- If you’ve been washing your mouth on the fact that Raymond Tim Kee has daughters in order to illustrate the point that he is out of line, you’re out of line. He shouldn’t be required to respect women because he knows some. He should be required to respect women because women (ALL WOMEN) are worthy of respect. He should also be required to respect women because he is a public office-holder tasked with serving the citizens of his constituency, about half of whom are women. You can’t serve us when you’re more interested in publicly policing our clothing and behaviour than you are in publicly calling for us to stop being treated as objects (and, you know, murdered).
- If you’ve been illustrating your point with images of Tim Kee’s daughters engaging in the very same activities he has highlighted, you are WAY out of line. As adult women, they’re all entitled to make their own choices, regardless of how their father (who also happens to be a public figure) feels about it. Isn’t part of the argument that women shouldn’t be attacked (verbally and otherwise) because of their clothing/drinking/feteing decisions? In addition, none of them are public figures and none of them deserve to have their lives and choices publicly critiqued because their father decided to publicly open his mouth and insert both feet days after (HE KNEW) they played mas.
- If you have been directly contacting Raymond Tim Kee’s children to harass/lecture them about their father’s offensive comments, you’re so wrong I’m ashamed that we’re actually standing on the same side of the issue. In fact, we’re not standing on the same side of the issue, because, from where I’m standing, a woman should not be held responsible for the actions of a man. And there you are, holding young women responsible for the actions of their father. Believe me when I tell you that the entire point of this entire situation has wooshed by your head so fast that it actually broke the sound barrier and is now approaching the speed of light as it exits the Milky Way.
As a bonus aside, if you’re out there trying to find a way to blame them for what he said (again, congratulations on that voop, the point just passed Pluto) – maybe you think they should’ve long talked him out of his chauvinism, or maybe you think his non-apology is proof they didn’t harangue him enough after his initial statement – let me ask you this: how much control do you have over your own parents’ ideas? I mean, assuming they aren’t paragons of liberal virtue, which, let’s face it, is unlikely here in Sweet T&T. Have your parents ever said anything bigoted/discriminatory? What did you say/do about it? How much difference did it make?
Even if you managed to change their minds, what if they’d made that original statement in front of all your friends and colleagues? How would you have felt if those friends and colleagues turned around and criticised you for it? What if strangers started hounding you about it?
Why did you lack the basic empathy required to consider these things before you posted that status/tweet/comment, or opened your mouth on national television/radio?
Think about it. And while you’re at it, GET IT TOGETHER.